What You Need to Know about a Roommate Marriage
Are you in a roommate marriage or relationship? If you have doubts here are some clues:
- You’ve stopped sharing your inner thoughts and feelings, because you’re convinced that your partner doesn’t care about them or will use them against you.
- You get home and feel relieved when you realize that your partner isn’t there.
- Sex is a distant memory or an obligation that you do your best to avoid.
- Your partner makes everyone and everything else more important than you.
- Doing something kind and thoughtful that says, “I love you,” rarely enters your mind.
- All you can think of are the past unpleasant things your partner has done, even though now he’s trying to be better.
- You would rather be with your friends first and your partner second.
- Your sexual fantasies include everyone but your partner.
- The prospect of being alone together on a vacation gives you an anxiety attack.
- Your partner keeps embarrassing you in public, even after you’ve told her how painful it is.
- You resent playing host to his family.
- Your partner would rather hear himself talk than listen to your point of view.
- Your partner says “I love you,” but hasn’t a clue about how you need to be loved.
- Your partner feels to you like a child that you take care of rather than a close friend and lover.
- You’ve lost interest in what might be going on in your partner’s mind.
- The amount of pain in your relationship is greater than the pleasure.
- You are staying together because of guilt and fear rather than because you like or love one another.
- Besides work and children there is little else you talk about.
- Doing something fun together rarely goes well.
- You consistently have the feeling that your partner would rather be anywhere else than with you.